We men love to complain about how women have extraordinarily high standards when looking for a mate—however, we fail to look a little bit deeper at why this is the case.While women may get an ego boost when they receive 30-100 messages in any given week, nobody really wishes to have that much admin to sift through.It is a well-documented fact that they more money you have, the more attractive people perceive you to be.This stark increase in interest occurs in both genders, but it is even more prevalent in men. I’m not sharing this story to bash those who are attracted to money or call them out as gold diggers; the point I’m stressing is that your profile shouldn’t include components that will attract the wrong crowd.Ideally, you want to use it to complement and augment your existing chances of finding a partner.But what if you don’t have any chances or opportunities in your day to day life?From the countless amounts of people I’ve spoken to and taught, those who have succeeded online sent out well-thought messages to as many people as possible. Some people treat online dating like they’re at a Pic ‘N’ Mix shop.So many flavours and tastes to experience, they become inundated with choice to the point that they just don’t know what they want anymore. Rejection is a massive part of life and is a prerequisite for success in any domain—however, that doesn’t mean that it doesn’t or shouldn’t affect us.
If you’ve had many negative experiences which have left you lonely and isolated, the responses you receive online (or lack of), may push you further into a negative vicious cycle.
And when 80% of the messages are either, you can’t really blame them for not responding to most messages—even if you personalize your mails.
The fact of the matter is that women receive far too much “unwanted” attention.
But, it was something I found she had an emotional attachment and connection to that would be a great conversation starter. My advice: It’s not worth worrying or caring about. Never put your eggs in one basket, expecting a response from the person who seems like a perfect match for you.
When you embark with online dating, you shouldn’t just expect rejection—you must embrace it and become its friend.