That idea isn't always so obvious—maybe you don't think you're choosing for those reasons, but in the back of your mind, you're still thinking about how envious your ex would be if they happened to run into you and this new person on the street.Sure, everyone has revenge fantasies, but online dating with them in mind is a clue you may be too caught up in your last relationship to do what actually makes you happy. But it's probably also a sign that you're not meeting anyone you feel is worth putting on pants and leaving the house for.
No judgment, because wading through digital representations of actual human beings can take up some brain space.
It's normal to feel giddy when you come across someone who really seems to have potential.
A little bit of pouncing on your phone when you think they might have messaged you back is totally warranted.
In that you're not doing it because it's genuinely enjoyable, but because of the nagging sense of guilt you'd feel if you didn't.
Those feelings of obligation may come from friends and family who are eager for you to settle down, or maybe they're even self-imposed because you feel like you aren't doing enough IRL to meet someone. Maybe deep down you don't want a relationship, or maybe you'd rather meet someone offline. Statistically impossible, given the number of human beings on this planet.