If you are a Scandinavian woman you will look back, with a wink (? The rest seems to be the woman’s job (see principle number 2: inversion of roles).The issue here is that such subtle signs of interest from men are completely invisible to foreign women’s eyes as we are used to heavy flirting and seeing big signs of 2 meters by 4 made by men especially for us. If so go directly to principle number three: alcohol.We may not have good words for ‘dating’ but we certainly have a great word for that spouse-without-a-wedding-ring we have back home: “samboer.” Which means “together-liver.” And yes, that word works better in Scandinavian.🙂 If you live with someone in Scandinavia, and especially if you have kids, you are as good as any married couple would be in your country.
You might think, like me, that this guy is looking at you in a strange way. NO he is trying to seduce you with his hypnotising long eye-contact. Men will rarely do more than that in their part of the Norwegian seduction process.I’ve also lived in several non-Scandinavian countries for longer periods – USA, Greece, Germany and Italy, when I was young and single and thus in the dating segment.But dating was like a foreign language to me – as it is when I watch American movies and television shows.Here it is a little Post-it hidden in the guy’s pocket. It is only after some years in Norway that I realised that men do flirt in their own peculiar way in order not to do anything that might invade your private space.p So conclusion number one: men won’t do anything more than just looking at you for a few seconds to show interest because they are shy and/or scared and/or very respectful of women. The second basic principle is logically linked to the effect of the first principle. Scandinavian women work for it, whereas we sit there and bat our eyelashes.As men are not very brave and need a lot of moral support and encouragement to talk to women, I have observed that there is an inversion of roles in what we, Southerners, see as the usual suspects: man chasing woman, woman playing hard to get, man trying to convince woman anyway by telling her that her eyes reflect all the stars of this universe, that she is beautiful, that no, she doesn’t look fat in that dress. They get active and invite men to dance and flirt openly whereas Southern women are taught to do these things subtly and discretely.