Jessica later introduced me to yet another awesome friend in San Francisco, and once again, her friend and I ended up having amazing chemistry.Jessica and I met up as friends, without any overt attempts at wooing, courting, or sleeping with one another. She came to understand my background story and my relationship goals and preferences ( talk about these things all the time), and I learned about hers.Using dating sites to find love is inefficient and prone to failure.We typically set the stakes too high, and centuries worth of societal tropes and expectations can cripple the authenticity of our interactions.Using these insights, we both began introducing each other to awesome people within our respective friend groups, and have been doing so for years.The friendship-first approach centers around sharing fun and memorable experiences with the people we meet, and seeking to learn their stories and their preferences, free of any overtly sexual or romantic expectations.I mentioned my predicament to Jessica, and she excitedly revealed that her good friend had just moved to the city I was visiting.
Over the course of our time together, we talked about plenty of our romantic and sexual preferences, but neither of us pressed for anything physical.
New dating apps like Tinder, Hinge, and Coffee Meets Bagel make us log in with Facebook, and they display the mutual friends we share with users on the app, which generates feelings of credibility and trust.
The worlds of dating and social networking are on a path toward convergence, and friendship is the driving force.
There’s a reason why some of the most popular and effective dating apps today rely heavily upon your mutual friends.
Both online and offline, friends provide instant validation and accountability.