When you can accept him as he is, you start to show him a path towards filling that void.
When you can recognize what he “gets” from his behavior and you can truly understand him as a man, you might not take his actions personally anymore.
But I can’t think of a time where the insecurity of one partner inspired a change in the other partner.
Especially when the insecure partner isn’t willing to walk away regardless of whether or not they get what they want.
There are times where one person might inspire change in another person, but it’s because the other person wanted the change themselves as well.
There are times where one person will get their act together because they’re afraid to lose something good or they’re determined to win something good.
I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and I do not understand why he won’t stop flirting with other girls.
My point in all this is that if you believe that you’re meeting all his needs, you will be blind to areas where the relationship needs to grow.
And now, a little over a year into the relationship you’re disappointed that he’s still the same guy… People do this all the time, but it doesn’t make it right or sane.
The fact is, this whole pattern of people projecting a fantasy version of someone onto the actual person is ludicrous.
because I know there are women reading this thinking, “Why should a woman do for this flirtatious disrespectful pig of a man? Here’s the deal – you’re asking me this question because you do not find his behavior acceptable. A guy always knows a woman’s limit is measured by how much she’s willing to tolerate.
And yet, you’ve been demonstrating to him that you’re OK with it. Women feel this instinctively and will usually try to put up a front, claiming that they won’t stand for his bad behavior and making empty threats.