I am a Black British teacher, and many of my friends are also in professional vocations.
We are young women open to dating other races, but being open doesn’t necessarily make finding a partner any easier. We’re tired of reading articles that tell us to widen our options as educated women and date men outside our race, because we are attempting this and it is making no difference.
But things are thankfully changing for Black women.
It is now estimated that 48 percent of Black Caribbean men and 34 percent of Black Caribbean women are in mixed-race relationships in the UK.
Black men in Bristol don’t give us the time of day.
The perception of the UK as a multicultural hub is true, but this is reflected poorly in the media in terms of the representation of Black women.
There will always be women who will wait for a Black man.
Jem adds that she doesn’t want to have to explain to a White man why she wraps her head at night, and her friend told her, after recently becoming single that she wanted to give her parents a Black grandchild as her two brothers have mixed race children.
It seems that many Black women feel that it is our responsibility to preserve the Black community. Surely, a shared connection, chemistry and interests (which is so hard to find) are more important than having to explain to a man how a weave is sown in?
After realising that White men probably won’t walk up to me in the street and ask for a date, I tried internet dating on and off for a couple of years, and admittedly over 90% of the emails I received were from White men.