Second, they should be actively working a program of recovery – attending meetings, volunteering, practicing self-care and so on – not just begrudgingly staying away from drugs and alcohol while addictive patterns fester.
These provisos are in place to give addicts a fair shot at lasting recovery and to protect the people they might date from falling for someone who is unhealthy, unavailable or worse.
I am worried that he's not stable enough, though, and that the relationship won't stand a chance until he's really back on his feet (including finding a new job). I get the time has passed but your situation is interesting. One year sobriety in my book is strongly recommended. I mentioned this one evening as we were discussion his issues and recovery.
In the end, it’s a very personal decision that you have to make: Is dating a recovering addict a deal-breaker for you? My partner and I are both recovering addicts-- we've been together for years now.If you believe addiction is a sign of weakness or a character flaw, dating a recovering addict probably isn’t for you.Sometimes if your alarm bells are ringing, there is good reason.I've seen more relationships fail, in the rooms, than succeed.But that doesn't mean it can't work-- as long as the partner has a good sense of self. I met someone who was addicted to marijuana and hashish, and also alcohol.